Resilient Parenting

 By Tara Liddle

We are living in challenging times with one crisis, the COVID-19 Pandemic, on top of another, and much more long-standing crisis, the racial inequalities occurring in America. Witnessing the killing of George Floyd in real-time has called us to action. Action is needed and is being demanded. So why are parents criticizing other parents for bringing their children to peaceful rallies around the country, and the world? Who are we to judge?  We need to stop judging one another and start trying to understand others’ points of view. 

Children are hearing and seeing what is happening around the world. People are suffering. We should not shield them from the dark realities surrounding us. We can make a difference. What we need to do is to be responsible. Dr. Belinda Bellet, Ph.D. of Brooklyn Heights Behavioral Associates recommends telling your child the truth while teaching them to use their voice and actions to affect change. It is our responsibility to educate children about injustice, civil liberties, ethical behaviors, and activism. 

According to Dr. Bellet, we can: 

• Speak to your children about the injustices in the world in age-appropriate ways.

• Let them know that they have what it takes to cope with these realities and be their best coach. Also, model healthy coping skills. 

• Teach that a fair and equitable world requires making personal sacrifices to help others. 

• Teach them other ways to affect change like giving money, food, and spending time helping people in need. 

• Come up with ways as a family to be consistent with activism and giving. 

• Put safety protocols in place prior to entering the protest and role-play emergencies (for getting separated, etc.) 

• Be sensitive to your child. For example, if crowds are scary, keep them home. 

• Attend rallies with friends (there is less chance of a child wandering off if they are with friends) or create your own peaceful protest with neighbors and friends. 

One mother’s response as to why she brings her son to protests was “because he will grow up to be part of the solution.” I cannot agree more. We have an opportunity to educate our children, to contribute, and to use our voice to affect change.